Morning!
Today, I can’t help but wonder why we’re hearing so many stories of sexual impropriety. I’m a man of a certain age, and I can tell you—things have changed, and so have I. No one needs another holier-than-thou lecture. 🙏🏾 I just want to understand.
As a woman, do you feel safe going about your day-to-day life? The other day, my wife felt uncomfortable about having an alarm technician over when I wasn’t around. My producer shared how she stayed on the phone with her mum the entire tube ride home—something I, as a man, never think to do.
Last time, I stirred the pot by suggesting women should have a man with them when dealing with tradespeople. The backlash was real—not because anyone disagreed, but because I said it. It made me realize that there are a lot of conversations we don’t have because they’re shut down too quickly.
Just yesterday, I talked about precautions women might take to stay safe, and I was accused of victim-blaming. That’s not helpful! For context, I’ve got floodlights, alarms, eight dogs, a baseball bat, and incense protecting my family. I don’t leave the windows open and head out to the disco. So why shouldn’t we discuss what safety measures women can take, while also holding men accountable to do better?
As men, we’ve got to challenge each other and, most importantly, teach our boys to handle rejection. Too many women have told me stories of being harassed, even abused, simply for saying “no.”
So, how safe do you feel? What do you wish men understood better? What do you tell your daughters? What precautions do you take, if any? And are things getting worse, or are we just more able to speak up now?
Yeah, this is a bit heavy for a morning chat, but it’s important. If you’ve got one story, one tip, or one experience, it could help—and that’s all I’m here for.
