Trying to help ….

Greetings, gotta type quickly today as I couldn’t get a seat til Mile End.

I usually look around to see if there is anyone in greater need of the seat than me but not today. Today I nearly sat on the seat before the person got up. They had to wait for me to move.This thing I’m about moan about happened as I was on my way to the big house. It upset my spirit so much that I didn’t post itbecause the musing was totally incongruous to how I was feeling after my little “episode”.

So here goes!! I’m sat down on the tube and become very aware that a woman is standing close, in-fact closer to me than Mrs Nestor ever stands. In fact I can feel her moving from side to side and her energy just doesn’t feel right. I’m writing my thing and my head is down (stop it).

Anyway I eventually look up and there is a woman in her thirties dramatically fanning herself.  She looked so distressed that I almost offer her my seat.  Anyway, I didn’t catch her eye so I went back to something I was writing about BHM.

When I looked down again I could see her purse literally hanging out of her bag.,,Now I’ve had previous at this.  Ima black man and somehow even when I try to help…. 🤷🏽‍♂️ [Check out “white girl in the lift] I remember one time a woman was crying and I went to help.  Somehow people decided that I was the bar steward that made her cry.  Over the years people have told me that that I shouldn’t let others take away my humanity 🤷🏽‍♂️

So I told her that her purse was hanging out and she shouted “I know, I can see it” With hindsight, I should have left it but I couldn’t.  I tried to explain that the Central line was one of the lines where…… “I don’t know what your problem is, I told you I can see it” she shouted.  With that she turned around and gave me her back.  I felt like shit.   I’ve had some great conversations about it over the last couple of days, where people have said that maybe she felt embarrassed or maybe she was having a bad day. I accept all of that but next time I see anyone with their purse hanging out they won’t be embarrassed by me. Neither will they have a purse most probably but they also ain’t gonna spoil this well intentioned #badman’s spirit.



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